A match made in heaven?

So I was talking to this old. no make it really old wise lady and something banged my brain ( no you ass not as is bang the girl bang, as the big bang. God your impossible). I like to think of the world as rational, I like to think of it as a big experiment which is being watched and taken care of really closely. Something that you have done a million times and you know exactly how its going to behave and it will behave that way. So keeping that in mind, read the following situation and tell me how would your rationalize it.

Note: No I’m not a sexist, though thinking of myself as one will give me a weird,sick sort of a pleasure. If I use the world girl you can always replace it with a guy without any hesitance.

There is a girl who lets say does drugs/guys/alcohol and everything in between. In other words, yes your perfect wife material. Just the one you would love to have by your side and raise your drug induced children with needles from the start. It works actually no baby no cry ( Damn I’m the next Bob Marley). Sorry got carried away, we were talking about the perfect woman. Since we’re on the the topic of the perfect girl. Let’s make her sleep with the whole football/cricket team. So we have needle induced skin, a black lever, a hint of carbon on the lungs and the whole cricket/hockey team. Now, our princess gets caught by her dad somehow. The vicious dad grounds her, tells her mom it’s all her fault and she should find a lad for her now asap.

At the same time, there’s a lad 28 or something living “abroad”. A nice young lad I might add, whose family is forcing him to get married for ages; he finally gives in. So the hunt starts and finally they find a perfect little angel for him, a distant cousin. Whose just perfect for him, pretty little thing with a nice college degree of course, preferably a doctor.

So a perfect match from heaven is made, they get married have children live a perfect little life, she gets sober. Never does shit again, no one talks or know about the old stuff ( of course if she dated me, she’s be getting some sweet kick ass blow up on wedding but still ) and they live happily ever after.

The question is there something wrong in the picture? Is all of it, Just and rational? Is everyone on fair and moral grounds? Is some cheated? Just can’t get my head past it.

Second Note: well if you find any spelling or grammatical mistakes, I would appreciate you shoving them up your butt

OMG! My Baby girl doing a job? Are you Crazy?

So I’m lucky enough to have family friends who are in the business of making nuclear bombs, no it has absolutely no relation to the post. Just thought to let you know.

Moving on, I was sitting at someones place and mom asks Mrs.Awesome Auntie so where does she start practicing  medicine and where? I thought something bit auntie or something , she pretty much snap-ed. “Allah na karay, why would my daughter practice?” (aaaa aunty because she wasted a pretty precious medical seat for starters? ) So in Mrs.Awesome Aunties opinion girls should not be getting out of their homes to work when their husbands/parents can offered to keep them in and even if something happens they should try to be at home and God forbid practice medicine.I totally agree like what sort of a douche bag  or you a retard makes their daughter practice medicine, how can anyone even think of doing such a horrid thing. Allah na karay what if someone actually benefits from her medical experience we don’t really want that now do we?

I’m stressing on medicine here, because you work your ass off to get to med school you get good grades in your School, high school college just for that one seat out of 200 – 500 maybe. You get that chance you study and then you don’t practice just because your husband wants to see you open the door for him when he comes home? What kind of stupid sense it that, why not do a BA degree, go in arts, literature, computing anything. Where you’re not actually taking a seat from someone who actually deserves it. Someone who would support a family, someone who would actually go out in the field and do something for people.

Who knows the person whose seat you came out just might go out and find the next best drug, he might be the one who eradicates polio by actually “doing something about it”, instead of knitting a sweater for the twin fetus in my stomach because I know medicine so much. What we need to realize is your son/daughter is a doctor/engineer he is an asset to the community, the society, the country. Money has been spent on him, resources given for 4-5 years of his/her professional studies. You owe it to the people to actually do something with your professional honey (no honey just because your daddy paid for the fee’s does not mean you don’t owe anyone anything)

In my opinion, there should be a bond that everyone that goes into med school should fill. That he has to serve for this much time, this much time in research this much in rural areas and this much in cities. Or he/she has to pay a fine of this much amount to the government of the country.

And please think about it, only if you can afford it means you want that last blanket if someone’s sleeping in the cold.

Sometimes you know it the instant you see her

Let me start off by saying THINK BEFORE YOU TAKE THE LEAP. Seriously, when we’re in ‘love’ we tend to or want to ignore so much stuff that is right there in front of us just because we’re in love and we a certain sort of appreciation for the person. These little things start to make a big pile in the end and we see ourselves fighting, ignoring or just living empty lives together.

What we need to realize is behaviors manners are defined or learnt in a very early age when your personality is getting molded. No matter what the reasons every person comes out slightly different from the other and every personality is not compatible with the other. When getting into self into a long relationship you should realize and look beyond the mush (no I did not say mush you crap minded ass).

In the start the things you are learning about your partner don’t let go of small things and go awww do look into the other side and see is it actually the way they are telling it. A lot of people have an attention seeking behavior and they will mold the tales their way just to have your sincerity (Yes been there done that).

Someone is the way they are for the past 20-30 years and that’s the way they are if you think you can change them into something different and they will change for you. You’re wrong; there are a very small percentage of people who actually change. You really can’t change the basic human nature/behavior or people.

Now, let’s move on to the white board where I can draw you a full picture with practical examples.

I was with this one girl, who always was running away from people saying this person did that and he likes me this way and that. And I was aww people are always douche bag’s guys don’t really leave girls wherever they go do they know. Not for a second, I said oh wait a second wtf isn’t there something wrong in the picture. If there is a guy and he hits on a girl and she says no really clearly not everyone is such a big jerk to keep on hitting on her just like that. Secondly, why don’t the same guys hit on the other million girls but her?  At the time I just felt bad and gave her a hug saying how can people so cruel to such a sweet thing. Well after two years turns out she never actually said no to anyone just let everyone linger on and enjoyed the attention just like that.

Let’s move on to specimen number two for further detailed study. I had this friend for ages now, the first time I met her we were talking about the perfect guy/girl to spend one’s life with. She without a second of thought goes like someone with a Mercedes benz/ a crazy office doesn’t asks me what I do or where I spent the money, just loves me just like that. I was aaa good and moved on to the next agenda in the conversation. After months and knowing her pretty closely, I was like awe she’s such a sweet heart a really person, this and that. But in the end of the day, whenever it comes to settling down the girl just melts on the sight of a merc and D&G. No matter how jerk the person is. So if I expect such a person to settle down in the hills live a calm life with someone they love, I’ll be pretty much an ass to think that because this is not who she is. She might be in love with someone right now, but still the Merc melts her more than the sweet red rose he gives her every day.

Moving on to the final subject in the lab assignment today . There was a friend of mine, always crying how people don’t give her space always want this, that from her and she doesn’t know why people think crap about her when she is such a good person. Looking at all those feminine tears I was aww that’s just sad isn’t it. How cruel sometimes people can be, that went on for a month. Then the topic never came up for ages, of course until she calls me up and tells me what a jerk I am and how I’m taking her space not letting her breathe and why can’t I be more like Mr.XYZ . I never heard from her again.

So kids, now what I want to do is think hard and deep of course (ok get those gross thoughts at home ass) and write me a comprehensive note on behavior.

Good Day!

Rand()

Note: Following is a collection of well lets say of half hour in my brain, thats how the silly thing works. Good or bad I don’t know but thats the way it is.

When your 18 you want to do so much with your life, some want to be the next billionaire other want to change the world, I even had a cousin who had a complete plan with blue prints to take over the world. At that time we really believe in it and it’s those exact passions which at times results in truly brilliant ideas or well then there always are suicides. Or then there always is a possibility of your being 23 doing absolutely nothing with your life and writing about when you had that passion.

It’s really fun to see kids with that energy and seeing them actually believing in something can happen for them or the world, the desire to be something big meaningful or rich for that matter. There is so much you want to do in so little time. You want to get yourself enrolled in a good college learn something meet new people, make friends or who knows wanting to find your lover.

Your involved in art, theatre, plays, gaming groups, hell you make your own band then slowly it fades away and it hits you. You’re going to live the same life that your parents did, you’re going to be doing the same old shitty jobs all your life and you’re going to be happy about it. You’ll marry someone who is good for you, have a decent job a car two kids and work your ass off to keep them happy. And your kids are going to be 18 and hope to be somebody one day. It sucks but that’s life and it’s going to be that way and well you really can’t change it.

There are different people that you meet in the different phases of your life often people who think that will stay there forever. You instantly feel a connection and it all seems to be going well then things start to fade away, its natural somehow.

Let’s talk about creativity and last teen years, I think everyone wrote poetry when they were 16. Its natural things come into mind and that is one of the best stuff that comes from you, some keep following it and keep writing it down other well they get lost in the usual activities of life and lose it. For me fortunately/unfortunately creativity hits me hard when something’s not right. I think that happens to a lot of people that if things are looking up creativity doesn’t really hit you.

I think the worst thing someone can do to human beings is give them what they desire I mean all that they desire. Because it’s never about the end result well it is if it’s a shiny red Ferrari but usually it isn’t. The whole fun and the whole thing is the process the struggle that you do to get to a certain place. If you’re given everything that you want you just lost there is no more hope nothing to look forward to nothing you want. Your life’s a complete halt, that’s the worst thing you could do to a man.

Hope is an amazing thing; it just takes you to places you never imagine. It’s something that just keeps you going keeps you happy. Not knowing is the best thing that could happen to humans, if you knew everything about everything there would not be a sense of purpose something or wanting to achieve something. We would just on our dumb asses thinking WTF now?